SUPREME MISTRESS MELISSA

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What is a Dominatrix?

On a basic level she is a purveyor of fantasies. Most importantly, she is a genuine, dynamic being who creates a world of pain and pleasure, fantasy and reality, who understands the complex nature of human sexuality. A great dominatrix doesn’t just become one, it is part of her being, a natural expression of self. A dominatrix is truly an artist. She is in control: in control of her submissive, in control of her environment, in control of herself. A dominatrix is open and understanding. She will discuss your fantasies with compassion, with delight. She likely knows you better than you know yourself when it comes to your kinks, your dreams, your darkest desires. A Traditional Dominatrix does not provide sex, although there is a sensual allure and aspect to Bdsm. In reality, sex has nothing to do with Bdsm, it is about releasing power and accepting power from both the involved parties. A dominatrix can be therapy, but she is not a therapist. She can be a role player, but she is not an actor. She can be sadistic, but not necessarily a sadist. She listens well, but that doesn’t mean she will grant you all that you want. A dominatrix has her own fantasies, enjoyments and limits. Never forget that a dominatrix, while often appearing to be omnipotent-at least in session, is flesh and blood, she is human. Above all, a good dominatrix is a professional. She understands her equipment and how to use it. She understands the inherent dangers of BDSM, but maximizes the safety in the environment of play. She understands boundaries for both her and client.

Slave Etiquette

Always mind your manners. Being respectful and polite is essential. Good grammar and using spell check doesn’t hurt either. Politely introduce yourself, you wishes, your interests. Get to the point. We are all busy and stating what you seek and your interests will save both of us time and reduce the chance for miscommunication. Think of how you might apply for a job, while this is a totally difference experience, basic communication skills are similar.
Study my website. Many questions can be answered simply by looking at my site and seeing if you sense you might be compatible with my style and interests. If you don’t see something in which you are interested, you may ask, but keep it direct and brief. No bartering. It is tacky and will only create ill will. I am a professional and there is a purpose and reason for my rates. Respect my boundaries. No means no, arguing is futile and disrespectful. When booking the most important thing is be ready. Have range of dates and times in which you would like to session. Express your interests in a concise manner. Remind me of any previous communication whether it be email, text or phone. Also, where you found out about me. Time wasters will not be tolerated. Obey my instructions and protocols. Confirm as told, follow up as instructed. Initial contact is an important time to make a positive impression and the path to a great, satisfying session. This is your chance to impress your Mistress!

What is BDSM?

It is many things, but the basis is about power exchange.  As a submissive, you are agreeing to putting yourself in the control of the Mistress, to be under Her command and authority.  This takes trust and understanding between both Dominant and submissive.  Communication is the key element for safety and enjoyment of both parties.  Beyond that, BDSM incorporates the basics of bondage and discipline.  Bondage can be as simple as a pair of handcuffs or attached to a bondage cross, and for the more elaborate enthusiast, inescapable rope bondage.  Discipline could be a light over-the-knee spanking, to a severe caning or a session under the tutelage of a single-tail whip.  One’s pain tolerance and enjoyment of suffering will affect the severity of the session.  There also could be times where the Mistress will want to push your limit which allows the submissive to find how deep they may go into submission. There are many other additional torments under the banner of BDSM.  Nipple torment, cock and ball torture, a couple of other provocations for the infliction of pain.  BDSM can also entail the exploration of the lighter side of the exchange of power.  Perhaps tied up, even blindfolded, as the Dominant teases and denies you the pleasure of release.  Or maybe you have wanted to explore your feminine side under the control and direction of a powerful Female.  And so many submissives long to be at the feet of a dynamic Mistress, to be allowed to kiss, to worship Her beautiful feet, to experience the divine pleasure of kneeling before Her and letting go, to experience the freedom of  allowing self to be guided by Her intuition, creativity, experience and knowledge.  BDSM is an exhilarating thrill ride through the darker side of sexuality, don’t miss out on the excitement.